Is there dissatisfaction in a monogynopaedium, that to do? (August 27, 2008 )
 What anymore we will praise each other, the less than for us it will be causes for dissatisfaction. And if you all the same want to say of the claims a near man, do it competent. We are often irritated by the conduct of near people. We are beside oneself, vexed, stand at times, and sometimes create a scandal. In any case somehow demonstrate the dissatisfaction. Involuntary reaction, discharging of subzero emotions? Not only. Consciously or subconsciously we want to prove a partner his nepravotu, how to "punish" him. But how always do we labour for the purpose? 1 GOVERNED: CRITICIZE ACT, But not MAN. Touching to the that hot flag, you will burn a hand, but not all body and, certainly, not surprised that a flag did not "punish", for example, a leg. And in expression of the dissatisfaction we do not observe such sense of measure. We get excited, are carried away, remember former offenses and lay the opponent to all, let even indeed existent, but absolutely not related to the real moment sins. It is a large error: condemning concrete misconduct, it is possible to expect that a man will understand you and will endeavour so no longer to act. If you will offend him as personality, will humiliate and except for offense and malice will obtain nothing.
2 GOVERNED: CHOOSE EXACT ADDRESS. A hot flag "punishes" a burn only touching to it. We often outpour the irritation on that, who appeared near at hand. Clearly, that if on you unfairly a chief shouted at or a near friend offended, mood your far from glad. But it is not nearly reason, coming home, to "unite" offense on anybody from near. That it is important to learn to apply the mechanism of "awareness". Otherwise speaking, exactly to understand, to whom and for what you offer claims.
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